Monday, May 12, 2008

God's Grace for Najma Ghouse

God has been good to us. After 9 months of good medical care and God's grace, Najma, my wife is now completely under God's care and surviving with Allah’s grace, your wishes and prayers.
UPDATED - May 24th
At 7:25 PM on Thursday Night, May 22nd, Najma took her last breath in peace and embarked on her eternal journey. Janaza (Funeral) prayers are after Friday Congregation (about 2:30 PM) in Richardson Mosque.
Inna Lilla hi o Inna Ilaihi ur rajewoon - From God we came and to God we go.

She was in peace and left this world with a gentle smile.

Those who wish to send flowers, we request them instead to support to her project - Domestic Violence. You can do so by going to the MCC's website and scroll down on the right side and click the button donation. It will take you directly to pay-pal. You can fill the required information and put the donation amount.
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We are home since Thursday, 8th of May, and I have been sitting by her bedside praying for her well being ... knowing that she could go any moment is a difficult thing to do. I took some time out to share this message with you, my friends.

In the foot steps of Prophet Muhammad, as a Muslim, I draw inspiration from all faiths and share this beautiful precise expressive phrase from Jainism “ Michami Dukadam”, the essence of which is, on this day, let’s forgive and ask for forgiveness and start the next breath of life with a clean slate, free from guilt, free from anxiety, free from hate, malice, anger and all those enslaving emotions. This is also the essence of many religious festivals including Rosh Hashanah, Diwali, Paryushan and Ramadan.

They say that both the forgiver and the forgived are blessed with the peace of mind and the freedom from negativity. It is indeed true salvation, mukti, moksha, nijaat, nirvana and other expressions to describe that freedom. The Qur'aan says that God’s favorite person is the one, who forgives and seeks forgiveness. It is also an idea central to the teachings of Jesus Christ. I want to thank every one who has participated and will participate in this heart and mind purifying process with Najma and I.
Please say "Michami Dukadam", it will complete the transaction.

One of the most memorable times of my life is spending time with Najma in her last moments, blessed is she, she has been reciting the article of our faith several times a day with me, “ La Ila ha Illal Lahu Muhammadur Rasool ulla” that I worship the creator God and honor his messenger Prophet Muhammad. She had asked me to read Sura Rahman, as well as reciting Sura Fateha with me. Her words come out and sink but she is not giving up the recitation. Remembering God and seeking his blessings is considered auspicious in Islam as in every faith. We have done this many times since my brother in law Hamid Hussein initiated this practice on Wednesday. May Allah be pleased with us. Najma's whole family surrounds her showering their love and affection.

Alhamdu Lillah, (praise the lord), I am pleased that she has the luxury to close the loose ends of life and continue her journey in peace, just as my Mother did. It is a beautiful way to bring closure to living a fuller life with all the gamut of emotions and experiences. I wish this happens to me, you and every one.

There is a part in me that hopes for a miracle that she would get up and say let's have a few more years of life filled with a whole spectrum of experiences of Khatta (sour), Meetha (sweet), Pheeka (unsalted), Teekha (off), Khara (spicy) and Kadva (bitter) brim with caring and lots of loving.

I want to thank the Doctors, Nurses and the medical care personnel* (listed below) who were so kind and caring, indeed that was a greater part of the caring. Then my gratitude goes to our friends who called, wrote and visited to show their support.

The biggest source of one’s serenity and joy comes from volunteerism, and to inspire and encourage the volunteer in each one of us, Insha Allah (God willing), I plan to hold a two hour evening of memories for Najma to include interfaith prayers and her dear friends sharing her passion to serve.

Thanks for your friendship.

Jazak Allah Khair
Mike Ghouse
Najma on the boat "Guess the song she is singing?"
We are honored and blessed with the kindness of every one, and these women and men have been angels to us, and that is every one that has come across Najma.
When the fog clears in my mind or pda is recovered....

Our Doctors:
Dr. Amer Shakil, Dr. Khalida Yasmin, Dr. Sultan Choudhary, Dr. Shobha Rao, Dr. Jalil, Dr. Holt, Dr. Munoz, Dr. Parvez Rahman, Dr. Humera Choudhry, Dr. Chabra, Dr. Botone, Dr. Subhan, Dr. Radha Cherupuri, Dr. Nasir, Dr. Tamara McGreggor, Dr. Anil Sood, Dr. Dar,.

The Nurses and Medical Professionals:
Crystal, Alberta, Liliana, Achamma, Mary, Suja (Insha Allah the list will be completed)
Zindagi aur kuch bhi nahin - hum sub ki alag alag kahani hai
Thanks for your comments below;


  1. Mr. Ghouse,

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife. May these precious days be a blessing for all.

    Rosie and Sol Stromberg

  2. Dear Mike,

    Thank you for your email. Your dear wife, Najma and your family are in our prayers. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you and Najma.

    With regards and prayers,
    Regina and Kevin Rafraf

  3. Dear Mike,

    I know your wife is in Allah's hands. She has run the race and fought the good fight. I want to say how much I appreciate you and your wife. To me you truly are saints - holy people who deserve God's blessing thousands of times over. You both have sacrificed to serve the purpose of peace and that is you legacy, your monument that you have erected. I believe it is indestructible. I pray your wife is at peace. Please know that my thoughts, prayers, and love are with you both at this time.. If there is something more I can do, please let me know. I just wanted to say my heart is with you and I feel that everything is in God's hands.

    Most sincerely,

    Bruce Biggin
    Arkansas Ambassadors for Peace

  4. Dear Mike,
    My family's prayers are with Najma and your family in this time of transition. It is comforting to know that the Creator has prepared a much better life in the next realm for all of us. May Heaven's love surround all of you in this specialtime. Love,
    Howard Self

  5. Assalaamu Alaikum, Mike. Please give Najma our salaam. We thank Allah for giving Najma to us for all the time that she has here. We enjoy working with her for when we do we have seen the Muslim community,peace and love that she represents. She has always been so kind and loving and I'll never forget that she, along with other Muslims in Grand Prairie on Bagdad St. helped me to understand my Muslim brothers and sisters from Pakistan. My family and I will never forget that. We pray for her health and strength and that Allah forever blesses your family.

    Brother Marzuq Jaami and Alexis

  6. I am so sorry for your loss. I am so glad that you had some beautiful last moments with your dear wife, however. I am sure you will cherish those until you join her.

    Kathy Chapman

  7. Dear Mike:

    Through the years, I have enjoyed your writings. However, this one
    really touched us the most. We are fortunate to have friendship of
    Njama and you. We were overjoyed and hopeful to see both of you at the Kavi sammelan at Eiseman center a short time ago. She is brave and blessed.Our thoughts and prayers are with both of you.

    Padmakar Kulkarni

  8. I am so very sorry to hear this sad news about your wife and I wish her comfort and peace.

    I fondly recall meeting her and I marvel at your description of her faith and belief. She is truly a gift to the world and she will continue to inspire all of the people who know her.

    Peace be with you and your family.
    Elliott Dlin

  9. For sharing with us. Our prayers are with you all.

    Bunny Summerlin

  10. Mike,

    I feel like being part of your family with your email that you shared plus all the announcements and various community groups you are maintinging. I know you from this (MPV) and PakistaniAmericans groups. I know Najma from your emails about her running for public office in texas. I truly value and appreciate your family's committment to community and public service. Knowing all this only make one ask why God tests the best of Its people this way? The only answer I have is that this is part of a process of evolution of individual souls. Those who are already flying in a higher plane get a tougher test to propel them into even higher altitude / levels.

    May Allah give Najma strenght to recover. But if that is not the wish of the Creator and Sustainer then may Allah give your soul the patience to bear this loss. You are saddened, I am saddened and community feels the loss but remember Najma. She is in a much better, beautiful and peaceful place and we should be happy for her.

    Mike, please don't stop the good work you are doing for the community. Please let me know how I can help.

    Warmest regards,

  11. Dear Mike.

    Please allow me to share your grief, albeit at a distance and pray!

    May God rest her soul in eternal peace and grant you all the strength and patience to acknowledge her departure as the inevitable destiny of us all.

    Allow me also to say to you -- take solace in the knowledge that your partner did not suffer the physical world for too long and that she passed away relatively in peace. That in itself was Gods grace granted to few.

    Cherish the memories of the happy times spent with her and move on for those she left behind.

    Your friend in cyberspace
    Rashid Samnakay
    W. Aust.

  12. Mike:

    When you were taking a break from Dallas Indians Group, I assumed that you will be taking off from your busy schedule for your family.
    I am really shocked to hear about Najma and may god give you strength to face the most difficult moment of your life.

    I also will pray the supreme doctor to stop the so called 'inevitable' by earthy doctors.

    With all my best wishes for Najma


  13. I am sorry for your loss.

    Your eloquence at this time is inspiring and humbling.

    Thoughts and best wishes with you,
    Muge Celik

  14. You, Najma and your family continue to be in my prayers. Thank you for letting us know. May you all be surrounded and filled with peace.
    Blessings, Marylou

  15. Peace be upon you and Najma, Mike.
    You both are in my prayers.
    Grace and peace,

    Rev. Terry McLellan

  16. Salams Mike,
    My thoughts and good wishes are with you and Najma. Please give her my regards and tell her we are also praying for her.

    Farzana Hassan

  17. Dear Mike:

    We were shocked to read your mail and to learn about Najma's condition. Last time (and the only time we had the fortune to meet with her was when we were there for my lecture. She was so healthy and energetic then. We had no idea that there was any thing wrong with her wealth.

    Neverthelees, our thoughts and prayers are with both of you and we sincerely wish that she WILL recover (even without a miracle) and live a full healthy life. Our sincere hopes and wishes will come true. Take care of her and keep us posted with the news of her recovery.
    Wishing you the best'
    Vastupal Parikh

  18. Dear Mike and Najma,

    Thank you for your email. I am sorry I did not know the situation more clearly. We (Yoko and myself) often think of you, and pray for you, but now we can pray with more clarity.

    I am glad you both have time to share with each other. May God give you both peace and strength. May he bless you richly in his own mysterious ways. You are a wonderful couple. One comfort that I have is that our relationships are eternal. How we live in this world will affect how we live in the next world.

    Words are inadequate right now, but I wanted to let you know that we received your email and that you are in our hearts and prayers.

    With love,
    Steve and Yoko

  19. Dear Mike, Dear Najma
    Thanks for this email. The inexpressible feelings that pass through our hearts - the place where the mind (mana)with it's endless flow of thoughts and the intellect (buddhi) which makes the decisions on which thoughts to keep and which thoughts to let go - makes us happy that Najma has you by her bedside and sad that the Lord chooses to do to her. Maybe HE needs a new cabinet member and what better a person than Najma would be. We may find solace in that. Then our heart rejoices that one we knew so close up is getting there and then we start thinking of ourselves and then we start praying to HIM, what is going on.
    However, you are right, we have to think beyond ourselves. The joy of her, not of ourselves. The decision HE decides, not ourselves. The LOVE HE is so much greater than we can be.
    Mike, you be strong. Najma, you recover. Most of all you know, we have the highest regards for your actions and for the way you have performed your duties and the goals you have undertaken and achieved.
    We invoke the Lord's grace to give the family and all of us the strength to bear what there is in store for us. Life and death are HIS choices alone.
    Realizing our nothingness, we say to the Lord: Teraa Bhaanaa Meethaa Laage: O Lord your will we have no choice but to accept. Give us strength to accept the same.
    We pray on this Mother's Day.
    With Prem and Om

    D D Maini, Sunil Maini and family

  20. Dear Mr. Mike,

    I don't know how I got subscribed to dallasindian community. Probably through sulekha/eknazar, I am not sure. Initially I felt little annoyed with few mails coming to my inbox through this community. However, before unsubscribing, I decided to have a look at some of the mails and realized that they were no spam or junk mails but very sensible mails. As a result, I decided to stay in community and started reading the mails as and when I had time. Eventually I got impressed with your moderate views and moderation of the community. In you I see a very good human being and a muslim who is so different from the muslims I encounter in general. In you, I also see the spirit of India and honestly, in you I see hope for islamic world which seems so intolerent at times.

    In your past few mails I read that your wife is fighting with poor health and in critical condition. At this time, I want to convey all my best wishes and prayers for her. I sincerely and very optimistically hope that she restores good health.

    Thanks, regards and prayers,


  21. Dear Mike,

    I just read your latest email.I admire you for your courage and for your sabr.

    May God Bless you.

    Naushad Mucklai

  22. Brother, the spiritual and physical essence and beauty of your soulmate is reflected in your words of love. Death comes to us all, however life well lived makes the journey easier. As I've been around you, read your words, her strength as a life partner have always been there. I am blessed to know you both. Tell her our prayers have been and will be with her and her family. Last week in Austin when we did our Sweat Ceremony, she/you were there.

    If I can do anything please let me know. Tell her she is an inspiration to my family. When I first met you guys and shared you with Cathy she was happy that dedicated people like yourselves became part of my life.

    Always with love and prayers,

    Gregory and family

  23. Thank you for this gift! My life has been enriched by your insight and willingness to share this most intimate of experiences. You don't know me, but you touched my heart.


  24. Dear Mike:

    I am very moved by your beautifully narrated account of life and death which is very insightful, meaningful and simply wonderful. May Allah bless you all and give you the strength to face the hard reality of life, which is just a temporary gift from Allah, taken back by HIM to preserve eternally for all of us to enjoy together.


    Taj Hashmi

  25. Dear Mike,
    My prayers are with Najma, you, and all your family. I was so sad to realize that Najma was still struggling with the cancer found last year. Please let me know what more your friends can do to help.

    Gary and I are at the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville FL, hoping they might soon approve a liver transplant for him. However, we are still in touch with family and friends elsewhere. You will be in our thoughts.


  26. Dear Mike
    This is to let you know that we are praying for Najma. May almighty Allah give you and your family strength to overcome this critical moments. Najma is a sweet person. The entire community will remember Najma for her volunteer work and dedication to promote southeast Asian heritage in the main stream of American cultural lives. We will miss her tremendously

    Zahid & Nasreen Reza

  27. Dear Mike:

    Sharing one's joy is easier than sharing suffering and pain. To share a loss is to share one's deepest emotions. Thanks for the faith of bestowing this privilege on us. There are no words that can ease the pain. The only attribute that helps is the faith in Divine all encompassing limitless wisdom, beyond human understanding.

    We are, and should be grateful for the grace that allows us to share such deep love, which is the cause of the deep sense of loss. There will be no sense of loss without the enveloping emotion of love.

    I know my words will not be of much help, but the balm emanates from the love you shared with Najma. You may recall our last conversation about the meaning of being

    It is the spark of life, the soul that gives meaning to the structured arrangement of cells and makes us much more than our parts. That is what is embedded in our memories.

    Zindagi Kya Hai, anasir meN zahoore tarteeb

    Maut kya hai inheeN ajza ka pareshaN hona

    Time takes its toll, and all of us are waiting for our ride into the eternity. The people we loved forever live until our memories live. and the pain of loss is a tribute to the person who meant so much to us. She was and will remain an intrinsic part of you. This sublime sentiment is peace, happiness, pain and longing all entangled in one. It will at times bring a smile, and at times a sigh without warning, and you will cherish both without distinction.

    I wrote a poem titled "In memories we live" couple of years ago, when you feel up to it I will send you a copy.

    The time always passes. You are doing what a loving caring husband with deep faith does. The great gift of faith in God is that it allows us to acknowledge our limited nature and find solace in the unlimited wisdom and mercy. Najma is blessed to have such a loving husband and family and you are blessed to have a companion to shower the deepest emotions of love. May both of you revel in the sublime,


  28. Mike, thanks for thinking about your friends even in these difficult times. Our thoughts and prayers are with Najma, you and your family. As you know, Najma and you are like a family to us and if there is anything any one of us can do, please do not hesitate to ask.


  29. Assalamo Alaikum.
    This is a heart breaking news, I was hoping her treatment is going well, and she is recovering, but we all have to bow down to will of Allah. This is a very hard time my prayers are with you and her, may Allah have his mercy on your family and make this transition easy. or better as you said still a miracle can happen and she can fully recover.

    Naseer Tahir

  30. Mike,

    All the Father’s Love and blessings be with you and Najma today, as every day …

    I hold you in my prayers as God holds you, Najma and your family close in His arms and Love …

    May the Peace and Love of God rest in your hearts and minds today, and forever more …

    Julie Ann

  31. AA,
    Dear Br. Ghouse,
    May Allah bless her, for give her, accept her among the bests of His servants (salihat-i niswan). We many times prayed in our congregation, we will pray more. May Allah give you sabr (patience).
    Imam Yusuf Kavakci

  32. Thank you for letting me know ........ this is a very difficulty tranisition, but as you know, there is a power stronger than all of us who controls our destiny.

    With kind regards,

    Dr. Anil Sood

  33. May God make it easy on you both, I know it is difficult but with difficulty will come ease insha Allah.

    Mohamed Elibiary
    President & CEO
    The Freedom and Justice Foundation (F&J)

  34. Dear Br. Ghouse,
    We are tested in this life in ways that only our Benevolent Rabb could demystify.

    I have never come across such a composed statement at such a momentous situation. This is what Allah desires from us. There must be a part in us that would insistently pray that O Allah, give her a full recovery. If not, O Allah, we embrace your wish that no one can override.

    Br. Ghouse, I pray for bhabi with open hand. May Allah also accept your sabr as a way to your salvation, where we all insha'Allah will rejoin our loved ones under the shadow of His abounding mercy and forgiveness.

    Thanks for remembering us at this special moment and allowing us to join in prayer for her and all of you.

    Fi amanillah.

  35. AA

    I just read your letter and couldnt stop tears flowing. It is really sad. May Allah give her more years of life! Or, if shee has already completed her lifesopan, help her in her last moment! I can feel the pain inside you at seeing your beloved partner depart. May Allah give you the courage and patience to face it! I thought I would meet you both some day. But I feel this is not to be.

    Was Salam

  36. Mohtram Ghouse Bhai, ASA

    Allah (SWT) give you courage to forebear the impending tragedy. It is the process that He has laid down for all living beings to come to earth, pass some time with tears and smiles and vacate the place for others to shoulder the responsibilities towards its betterment.

    Ghouse Bhai, you are a Muslim and have a firm faith in Allah. As such, pleas never fell dejected but look towards Him with hope that is our eternal treasure. He can give her still a new lease of life to fulfil some of her obligations that are yet to be accomplished by her. We humans don't know the Mashiyat [will] of Allah and therefore should always feel contented the way He is running our affairs. In the midst of this developing tragedy, studying of Verses # 55 and 56 of Chapter Al-Airaf and pondering over its content will sooth your heart and mind.

    May Allah give complete consolation to your heart and give Sister Najma fastest recovery, the only hope that we can sustain at these hours of trial. Allah's Rahmah is very close to you.

    With bets wishes

    Shamim Siddiqi

  37. Hello Mike,

    I’m sharing your email with other CRS staff who know you as a significant community liaison for the work we do. My prayers are with you and your family. As I read your email, it’s quite obvious that you are being blessed with much peace and comfort. Please keep me posted.

    Carmelita Pope Freeman

  38. Dear Mike, ASAK,

    I am on the PMV group list. I saw the email you wrote about your wife and it really touched me. Your sentiments have inspired me and made me reconnect with the essence of life. Your perspective is one of faith and positivity and conveys true strength.

    I wish peace and serenity for your wife and you. I thank you for awakening me.


  39. I am so sorry to hear about Najma's condition. I am adding her name and Mike's name to the World-Wide Sufi Healing List so that Sufi's all over the world will be praying for G-d's voice to be involved in their life.

    I know that Mike and Najma are a blessing to the world and a living presence to the Name of G-d. Their kindness and work is heard by all.

    May the blessings of G-d rest upon them, May G-d's peace abide with them. May G-d's presence be with them both, now and forever more.
    "Doc" Judie

  40. our thoughts and prayers are with you. harriet and fred gross

  41. Dear Brother Mike: As-Salamu Alaikum.

    I am sorry to hear about you wife, our sister's departure from this difficult world to the world of peace, to our Gracious God Almighty Who is oftforgiving. We all belong to Him The Almighty, we came from Him, will go back to Him. May The God Almighty bless you with lots of patience to be able to deal with this difficult time. May The God Almighty accept her soul with all Grace, and bless her with the Eternal abode of Paradise.

    As we know from the Hadith of our beloved Prophet (SA) that a God loving and fearing soul at the time of death, when he/she see the Angel of death become very happy to go back to his/her Owner, The Almighty God, because a gladtiding and welcoming reward have been waiting for his/her.

    After the death of my beloved father, one of my friends told me " when I heard a death of a Muslim I do not feel sad because his/her honorable departure from this difficult world to the world of peace is full of good news but for other people I feel very pain that if The Almighty Gracious God does not forgive them then a very difficult time is waiting for them".

    Take it easy, we all follow the same route, but God Willing we all want to die with the last Word ( Shahadha) as our sister Najma did. Please make prayers for us for all the children of Adam. Today there is an earth quake in China, we need to pray for them.

    Jazakum Allahu Khairan,

    Your brother in Islam, Mohammed Nazrul Islam Khan

  42. Mike our prayers are with Najma and you.

    Ashok & Monica

  43. Dear Mike

    Assalam Alaikum

    Saw your message today on the Forum.Extremely moved by your pain and courage.Praying to Allah to grant you all strength and faith in these difficult times and shifa to Najma.

    You all will be in our prayers.

    Warm Regards
    Tayyaba Qidwai

  44. Dear Mike,
    Great to see your and Najma's complete submission to Almighty
    Allah. This is how we all should keep ourselves up in the event
    Our prayers are for Najma's mental peace and peaceful stay with
    you at her bedside. You both are wonderful examples to all of us.
    May Almighty Allah bless you both.
    Muslehuddin Ahmad

  45. Dear Mike Bhai Jan,


    Please allow me to convey our sincere prayers for you, Najma Apa and your entire family. May the Almighty Allah bestow Najma Apa with HIS mercy and kindness. Our prayers are with you always.

    With prayers always!

  46. Dear Mike Bhai,

    Sorry to hear about Nazma Bhabi's news.

    I'm going to pray for her in my namaaz, and I will also let everyone know to pray for her.

    If there is anything we can do for her, please let us know.

    Hashmat Mobin
    President, Bangladesh Association of North Texas

  47. Dear Mike,

    I am sorry to hear of the difficult time, you and your wife are going through. May God you both strength to go through it with grace!

    Best wishes,
    Pritam K. Rohila, Ph.D.

  48. Mike Bhai,

    May Allah gives you strength and blessings. Najma Bhabi is in our
    prayers. At Madinah Masjid after every namaz we do 'DUA' for her & all
    of you. Surat Yaseen is the best to read beside her bedside.

    Amjad Googi Shahbaz.

  49. Hi, Mike

    With deepest sympathy, our thoughts and prayers are
    with you

    Please accept our condolences on the loss of your
    wife. God bless her.

    Jitu Desai.
    Plano, Texas.

  50. Dear Mike,

    Kindly send a note on Najmaji's role in making an
    institution that surely you are.

    Ram Prasad

  51. Assalamu-Alaikum, Mike,

    My heart and prayers goes out for you and Sr. Najma. May Allah 'swt' give you the patience and fortitude to make it easy on both of you.

    Please let me know if I can be of any help to you all.


  52. AOA:
    May Allah rest her soul in heaven away from all pain and suffering.

    On behalf of the Institute of Islamic Learning and on my personal self, please accept our deepest condolences. We pray for her departed soul. She was a fighter and a God fearing person. May Allah give you the courage to handle this tremendous loss.
    Asif Effendi

  53. dear mike ghouse,
    as salam ale kum, wa rehmatallah waa barkay,
    yaa aly madad,
    very sorry to read about dear wife najma, health, may allah karim, protact her, for all the evils, allho sahfe, allho mafi, inshaalh she will be fine, very soon ,we all prey for her early recovery. please recite the following, allah akber, subhan allah, allahu-samad, aaah hamdullah, also please recite, astgafarabiwautuboleh, and la illah illa lah anta-subham min kun tu zalmen, pleaase cetire for one week, all your mushkil will be aasan, AMEEN
    with love to you all,

  54. May Allah have mercy on her soul and grant you the patience to endure.

  55. Jb Ghouse Saheb,

    I hope and pray for you and your family of extremely daring, courageous and faithful people.

    I am so sad for you Sir and hope God can give you strength at such a time.

    my mother passed away a couple of months ago suddenly and I wish I had a chance to be with her in the last few hours.

    Sincere Regards
    ateeq ahmad

  56. sorry to hear this; hope all goes in peace and good memories feels your mind and heart. --Aram.

  57. Dear Mike:

    Your devotion to Najma is sublime and evident. It is the cause of pain of impending separation and with Divine mercy it will be the balm that heals the pain and leaves the rich wonderful memory to sustain you.

    Ek Dard Mohabbat ka itna sa fasana hai
    Simtey to dile-ashiq; Phailey to zamana hai.

    May Najma find peace and tranquility in her time of suffering and may you find grace and peace in devotion and caring. With prayers,

  58. Dear Mike:

    Thank you for taking the time for this email, Not a day go by when I did not think of her. Shenaz kept me updated on her condition. Shenaz is my co-worker sit right next to me and we talk about her so many times. I must say you are very brave and handling it very well. God give you more and more strengh to deal with this. I pray and hope for the miracle too.
    My love and prayers are always with you.

    take care

  59. Dear Mike,

    Ever since we learned of Najma's ill health, Shirin and I pray everyday to Allah to give her strength and courage to bear pain and suffering she might be going through.But, you never know, like you said, miracle could happen.Prayers are a powerful force.Therefore, please don't give up hope.Allah is great and merciful.

    If anything we could do from our end, please let us know.

    Shirin and Hasni

  60. our thoughts and prayers are with your wife and you and your family.

    khalid hamideh family

  61. Dear Br. Mike Ghouse;


    May Allah (swt) give you strength in this trying times and may HE grant Shifa to Sr. Najma. We are all with you and will pray for her "shifa" please let me know if I could be of any help.

    Dr. Nakadar & Mrs. Najma Nakadar

  62. Our sincere prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.


  63. Mike, I just heard about Najma. Our prayers are for her and your family. If I can do anything at all, please let me know.

    John Chowdhury

  64. As Salamu Alaikum My Brother in Islam, May Allah swt give Najma your wife peace and a spacious grave with light therein Ameen....JazakAllahKhair for all the love and support you gave your wife and sending a message to all those who share your sincerity Ameen. May Allah swt be with you and guide you more in your path of Deen Allah swt and ease your worldly grieving process InshAllah Ameen....Salam My Brother in Islam Khedeja Al-Iman .......InshAllah we are here for the sake of Allah swt InshAllah to help unite all of Allah swt creations in Peace, Repect, Love and Sincerity Ameen

  65. Dear Mr.Mike&Najma Appa'
    I & AAshi pray for her good health and if we could do anything for her or you.we came to know today about her condition. Jahangir&AAshi

  66. I pray for Najma and may Allah hold her hand too. Ameen

  67. Dear Mike

    May God keep you, Najma and the whole family under His peace, grace and mercy now and forever. Me and my family's best wishes and prayers are with you.



  68. Br. Mike,
    Assalam O Alaikum,
    As we didn't want to intrude into your privacy, Shahina and I have been enquiring about Sr. Najma's health through Akaram and others. We pray to Allah (SWT) for her Maghfirah. May Allah (SWT) accept all her good deeds which she has countless. Shahina just memtioned to me that when she thinks about Sr. Najma, she thinks about a person with full of life and vigor.
    May Allag (SWT) give you all Sabr in these trying moments.
    Allah Hafiz!!
    Shahina and Ausaf

  69. Assalamualaykum,

    May Allah SWT give you patience in this very tough time. If you need
    anything, please don;t hesitate to call out to me.

    Imam Zia

  70. So sorry to hear the news. In fact I cannot believe this. Only last year she was standing for an election and lost for a few votes.

    May God give you the strength to withstand the loss.


    Joseph g


    Thank you for sharing the utmost tender moment of your life with your friends and well wishers. On my part, I sincerely pray for Najma Ghouse that all her wisher for this world and the next be fulfilled by the grace of ALLAH and may HE be with her from here onward for her journey in this world and the next. May she find and experience peace of mind and soul in every moment of her life with her our family and sincere well wishers. I am sure that through you, she knows that the love and goodwill she has showered all over and around her has borne the fruit of prayers for her in the tenderest moments of her life. May God Almighty be with her throughout the test of time in both the worlds. Ameen.

  72. Mike,

    Thank you so much for the e mail. May Allah accept all her recitations of the holy Quarn. Inshallah and keep in peace. We will be praying for Najma. Please keep us informed.

    I wanted to call you but lost my cell phone. Please let me know if I could be of help.

    Kalim Saiyed

  73. Our prayers continue to be with you and your wife.
    What a beautiful expression of love for Najma you have shared with your friends.

  74. Dear Br.Mike Ghouse,

    Assalaam Alaikum

    I pray to Allah (SWT) to give you and your wife the strength and fortitude in these trying times.
    It is a blessing of Allah (SWT) and a sign of faith that your wife has been blessed with reciting
    the Kalima-e-Shahadah.

    Ayub Khan

  75. I admire your patience. May Allah make it easy for you and your family and grant your wife jannah.


  76. With Allah G-D Al-Mighty the merciful Benefactor,the merciful Redeemeras salaamu aliakum
    Mike and Najma

    Imam mohammed a samaad
    Dallas Chaplian/Prison Services

  77. With Allah G-D Al-Mighty the merciful Benefactor,the merciful Redeemeras salaamu aliakum
    Mike and Najma

    Imam mohammed a samaad
    Dallas Chaplian/Prison Services

  78. All our prayers are with Najma Bahen and there family. She is one of the great women i know in Dallas Fort Worth. Anything i can do please don't hesitate to ask.
    Mansoor Shah

  79. Mike my prayers are with you, Najma and entire family. I wanted to come visit but I don't know if she is allowed any visitors, please you don't have to say anything I would understand. I am here if you I could do anything at all please you are like my brother and I have high respect for you and Najma, so please do not hesitate. May God give you and your entire family the strength to cope up with this situation. Mike I really don't know what to say, my prayers are with you all as always.

    Mani Rahman

  80. Walaikum Assalaam brother Mike,
    I am sorry to hear about Najma’s health.

    Please pardon me for my ignorance; I really did not know that she was sick.

    My prayers are with her, you and your children, InshaALLAH.
    Please keep us informed.
    May ALLAH give her a speedy recovery, Ameen.

    Sarwat Husain
    San Antonio

  81. Dear Mike, ASAK

    I admire your devotion to Najma and also the courage with which you have been handling the situation. We can and should do whatever is within our power to face the realities of life; the result is never in our hands. All of us have a predetermined life span. May Allah give us all the wisdom and strength to accept His will and command.

    Best regards,


  82. Dear Mr Ghouse,

    It is with deep sadness that I receive this news. I hope god gives you
    the strength to bear what is certainly going to be a great void in your

    Ashok Chowgule

  83. Dear Mike,
    I am so sad this is happening Mike. I wish I could be there with you, just know that you are in my prayers. If there is anything I can do, don't hesitate to ask.
    Yes, I will inform the others; I'm reluctant to do it by email, but I also don't want to wait until Thursday when we are all together.
    Peace be with you.

  84. Dear Mike:
    I send prayers to both you and Najma at this most difficult time. May you both be blessed.
    Most Sincerely,
    Gloria Hocking

  85. Mike, I will keep you, your family and Najma in my thoughts. I am visiting my ailing mother in El Paso, TX for 12 days, returning May 19th.

    Maria Viera-Williams

  86. Dear Mike,

    Thank you for sharing with me your and God's caring for your precious Najma ... and know that my prayers are with you both. Please keep me posted as you are able and continue your love and strengh to the max.

    You are an incredible soul and I so appreciate all that you do for us all in PEACE ... Thank you


    Marilyn Patrice Fleming, Designer / Model / Writer

  87. Dear Mike,
    May Allah continue to bless you and Najma and your family during this intense time. I was privileged to be with my mother when she went to God--and i praised God's goodness and mercy, as i continue to do. Your attitude, and Najma's and your family's, is an inspiration--and a powerful example of true Islam: submission to the will of Allah.

    Thank you for sharing this shining example with us. May Allah grant us all the grace to submit so entirely in every situation. My prayers and my heart go out to you all at this time. God grant you peace.

  88. Our prayers are with you both. Jo Wharton

  89. Mike and Najma,
    May God's blessings be with you both.
    Thank you for letting me know what is happening.

    Joan Mirabal

  90. sorry to hear about Najma's but we have to bow our head to His will.May God give you and the family to bear this untolrable pain.our prayers are with you .just remember the beautiful memories and the sweet and spicy time you all have together.
    regards roshni

  91. Dear Mike & Family & Yousuf Families,

    May God, Allaha be with all of you and specially with
    our sister, Najma ! Our prayer, Bhandgi always w/ you
    to do some miracle and keep all of you with peace.

    The prayer is only very powerful medicine, May God
    Kabul kare our prayer and convey our love to Najma.

    Om Shanti, Shanti Shanti,
    W/ lots of love,
    Nanak & Jyoti, Anjulina & Sandhya,Karachiwala family

  92. Dear Mike,

     Yes God is Good and Great… Nothing is impossible with him……and May he give you and your dear ones the Peace that surpasses all understanding…Your family is in our thoughts and prayers ,  especially Najma as she needs all the strength and the courage right now more than any time,  We are all temporary sojourners and we Live our Life one day at a time on this earth.., in fact one moment at a time……….

    Here are some words of Comfort from the Bible,

    Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (Philip 4.6-7)

  93. Dear Brother Mike,

    It is indeed a very difficult time for you.But I admire your faith in God and abiding love for his last messenger Hazrat Muhammad ( PBUH). I for one wholeheartedly share your grief and suffering but since you have a magnificent soul and have unshakable trust in the divine will, I am sure you have earned his blessings in this world as well.

    Najma our sister, not long ago a vibrant soul is going through the hardest test of her life.She too is invincible because her soul is filled with the glory of God.I hope and pray to God for a miracle.

    But this is also not short of a miracle that she and you and the whole family has made even this grief stricken situation into the one resplendent with the divine fragrance.Every soul has to taste the final parting moment. It is a will of God and so it be.The prayers of mine and my family are with you and gracious Najma.

    Saghar Siddiquie the famous poet said:

    Hayat-o-maut mein Tafreeq kia karein Saghir
    Hamari Shan-e-Khudi Kah Rahi hey Sab Achcha.

    Your brother,
    Saeed Qureshi

  94. My dear Mike, As Salam Alaikum wa Rehmathullah,

    As it happens, it is my 28th Wedding Anniversary today. On this day when I read your heart-felt tribute to your wife for her courage and conviction of faith at a time when she is completely in the care of almighty Allah, I felt completely overwhelmed and deeply touched.

    Who knows, Najma Bhabhi might yet rise in full health and stay with you through many more years of meaningful and cause-worthy life. We know Allah SWT is Aleemun Qadeer (What is best and is able to do anything).

    My wife Naima joins me in conveying to you and Najma Bhabhi our best wishes and a promise to remember both of you in our Duas.


    Syed Adil

  95. My Dear Ghous, all my sympathies, best wishes are for you. I wish I could
    be of some help to you. May Allah be with you both. I am in Pakistan and
    ready to extend any help to you which possible for a human being.
    With best regards. May Almighty Allah bestow all his kindness on you.
    Iftekhar Alavi

  96. Brother Mike Ghouse.

    My heart goes for Najma and you. Have faith and patience and seek His mercy and blessings.
    Ameen summa Ameen.


  97. Salam Mike,

    We all have to depart one day and no one can escape this eventuality.

    I like your positive thinking. That is exactly what "Sabr" (or patience with positive overtones) is.

    Many prayers for her and for your family.


  98. May God bless Najma Bhabi and you for all that you are going through. The way you are handling the adversity is an example of good Muslim and I wish you keep having the strength and trust that you always had.You have been a wonderful leader and noble example.
    kimat gul khatak MD.

  99. We are praying for her. May Allah give you strength. It is not easy to see loved one suffer like that. Our prayers are with you. May Allah make it easy for you.

    Abdur Rahim Abbasi





  101. Salaam Mike
    May Allah make everything easy for her. indeed you are a man of faith and so is your respected spouse.
    All my prayers for her and your family.
    brother Fauq so beautifully presented the verse from Quran, "Inna Lilla'hay wa inna ilay'hay rajayoon".
    Duaa Go

  102. Assalamu Alaikum. I am sorry to hear about the sad condition of Najma. My prayers are with you, Najma and your family. May Allah (swt) ease your difficulties and grant health to Najma. Ameen.

    Aftab Siddiqui

  103. From God we come and to God with return… indeed we don’t know who is ready and when?

    If there is anything in an hour like this, please let me know.
    Rumi comes to mind:

    ‘And don’t look for me in human shape.

    I am inside your looking.
    No room for form
    With love this strong.’

    Our prayers for Najma and profound sympathies with yourself and entire Ghouse family.

    Wasim Khan, MD, MPH

  104. My, Dear Mike,My and Ursala,s sympathies are for you ,Iwish I could be of some help,please let me know if there is any thing I can do.May ALLAH shawer HIS blessing and kindness on you both.. QAZI and URSALA

  105. Mike, I am so sorry to hear that. God bless you and her, and you are in our prayers.

    Zulfi Ahmed

  106. Mike, I am so sorry to hear that. God bless you and her, and you are in our prayers.

    Zulfi Ahmed

  107. Please, spend more & more time with your wife and take care of her. Wishing
    her best.

    Naresh Shah

  108. My wife and I pray for Najma.

    You have been a true inspiration for the broadminded Islam we follow. Thanks for all your emails.

    With best wishes,
    Saleem Ahmed

  109. Dear Mike,
    Having been out of town Amrita and I did not keep up with any
    happenings of our dear ones in town. Now we are speechless over the
    bulletin we are receiving. Mike, we know you and Najma well to feel the
    emotions that both of you are going through. We pray with you for the
    composure to recognize what no one may change. We join you in trusting
    that our Creator knows the best and we must surrender to His Will.

    Let us assure you, Mike, that you have many friends in DFW communities
    and in the Sikh community who share your grief and who are ready to
    provide any consolation that is needed. At the risk of being intrusive
    at a time like this, I am writing this note and hope to come to see
    both of you soon.

    Amrita and Harbans Lal

  110. I had no idea that you were experiencing this. I am so very sorry. If there is anything that I can do to help, please do not hesitate to ask. I wish you
    all the very best and will keep you close in my prayers.

    Saira Shah, JD

  111. You are in our prayers. May God bless you and Najma and give both of you strength to deal with this difficult time.

    Shambhu Nath

  112. Please let us know about the two hour ceremony you plan to hold...I want to be
    there as we have exchanged few telephone conversations last year when I wanted
    to invite her on my show ''Zindagi' which I do from Salaam Namaste 104.9FM every
    Friday...she asked me to continue this volunteering spirit and was so receptive
    when I mentioned the goals for the show...
    My prayers for her peace...

  113. How's Mrs. Ghouse doing. convey my best regards to her.

    I had a visit with Mr. Gears and he kept talking about your contributions for promoting goodwill amongst all faiths. Please continue good work which you have started for peaceful co-existence.


    Taher Hamid

  114. Mike,

    I was moved to tears by the poignancy of your prose honoring Najma.
    We all love Najma and we will always pray for her, whatever design God has for her.
    She is fortunate to have a soulmate of your stature, intensity and sincerity. May Allah bless you both and, in your train, pull us all into his circle of blessing.

  115. Dear mike we are with u in yours and hers prayers


  116. May Allah help you and Najma!

    Iqbal Kazmi
    Plano, TX

  117. In the name of God, Most Beneficent, Most Merciful

    Peace be upon you.

    The concept of death can be derived from these verses of the Quran - "He is the One who puts you to death during the night, and knows even the smallest of your actions during day. He resurrects you every morning, until your life span is fulfilled, then to Him is your ultimate return. He will then inform you of everything you had done. He is Supreme over His creatures, and He appoints guards to protect you. When the appointed time of death comes to any of you, our messengers put him to death without delay. Then everyone is returned to God, their rightful Lord and Master. Absolutely, He is the ultimate judge; He is the most accurate reckoner." (Quran 6:60-62)

    The time of death is predetermined - "No one dies except by God's leave, at a predetermined time. Whoever seeks the vanities of this world, we give him therefrom, and whoever seeks the rewards of the Hereafter, we bless him therein. We reward those who are appreciative." (Quran 3:145)

    No one knows the time or place of ones death - " With God is the knowledge regarding the Hour. He is the One who sends down the rain, and He knows the contents of the womb. No soul knows what will happen to it tomorrow, and no one knows in which land he or she will die. God is Omniscient, Cognizant." (Quran 31:34)

    Every soul will experience death - "Every soul will taste death, after we put you to the test through adversity and prosperity, then to us you ultimately return." (Quran 21:35)

    We already experienced our first death until we were born into this world - "Most exalted is the One in whose hands is all Kingship, and He is Omnipotent. The One who created death and life for the purpose of distinguishing those among you who would do better. He is the Almighty, the Forgiving." (Quran 67:1-2)

    The second death concludes our life in this world - "How can you disbelieve in God when you were dead and He gave you life, then He puts you to death, then He brings you back to life, then to Him you ultimately return?" (Quran 2:28)

    The righteous does not experience the second death - " The righteous will be in a secure position. Enjoying gardens and springs. Wearing velvet and satin; close to each other. We grant them wonderful spouses. They enjoy in it all kinds of fruits, in perfect peace. They do not taste death therein - beyond the first death - and He has spared them the retribution of Hell." (Quran 44:51-56)
    "The angels terminate their lives in a state of righteousness, saying, "Peace be upon you. Enter paradise as a reward for your works." (Quran 16:32)

    The Quran gives an example of the death of a righteous person - "And for claiming that they killed the Messiah, Jesus, son of Mary, the messenger of God. In fact, they never killed him, they never crucified him - they were made to think that they did. All factions who are disputing in this matter are full of doubt concerning this issue. They possess no knowledge; they only conjecture. For certain, they never killed him. Instead, God raised him to Him; God is Almighty, Most wise." (Quran 4:157-158)
    "They plotted and schemed, but so did God, and God is the best schemer. Thus, God said, "O Jesus, I am terminating your life, raising you to Me, and ridding you of the disbelievers. I will exalt those who follow you above those who disbelieve, till the Day of Resurrection. Then to Me is the ultimate destiny of all of you, then I will judge among you regarding your dispute." (Quran 3:54 - 55)

    The unrighteous experiences the second death - "Those who disbelieve will be told, "God's abhorrence towards you is even worse than your abhorrence towards yourselves. For you were invited to believe, but you chose to disbelieve. They will say, "Our Lord, you have put to us to death twice, and you gave us two lives; now we have confessed our sins. Is there any way out ?" This is because when God Alone was advocated, you disbelieved, but when others were mentioned beside Him, you believed. Therefore, God's judgment has been issued; He is the Most High, the Great." (Quran 40:10-12)

    The nature of second death can be derived from these verses - "If you could only see those who disbelieved when the angels put them to death ! They will beat them on their faces and their rear ends; "Taste the retribution of Hell. This is a consequence of what your hands have sent forth. God is never unjust towards the creatures." (Quran 8:50-51)

    The Quran gives an example of the death of unrighteous people - "Whenever a plague afflicted them, they said, "O Moses, implore your Lord - you are close to Him. If you relieve this plague, we will believe with you, and will send the children of Israel with you. Yet, when we relieved the plague for any length of time, they violated their pledge. Consequently, we avenged their actions, and drowned them in the sea. That is because they rejected our signs, and were totally heedless thereof." (Quran 7:134-136)

    The death of righteous and unrighteous can be compared from these verses - "The (angels who) snatch (the souls of the disbelievers) forcibly. And those who gently take (the souls of the believers) joyfully." (Quran 79:1-2)

    This is the crucial reminder of the Quran - Those who disbelieve and die as disbelievers, an earthful of gold will not be accepted from any of them, even if such a ransom were possible. They have incurred painful retribution; they will have no helpers." (Quran 3:91)

    Thanks and God bless

    M. Irtaza

  118. Dear Mike.
    your feeling comes through in your writing. I pray may God, Allah spare her any pain. Many people could learn from your courage, patience and sincere behavior. May you blessed and spare any future unpleasant events.
    Allah be with you and Najama
    Joe Samuels

  119. Dear Mike,

    In this most difficult hour, our prayers are with you and your entire family. Alhumdulillah, you have thousands of well wishers around the world who are all praying for Najma Bhabi.

    Your message is an expression of tremendous courage and extraordinary compassion which Allah SWT has bestowed upon you.

    May Allah SWT grant you all his blessings.

    warm regards

    Zahid Jamil

  120. Dear Mike,

    In this most difficult hour, our prayers are with you and your entire family. Alhumdulillah, you have thousands of well wishers around the world who are all praying for Najma Bhabi.

    Your message is an expression of tremendous courage and extraordinary compassion which Allah SWT has bestowed upon you.

    May Allah SWT grant you all his blessings.

    warm regards

    Zahid Jamil

  121. We will pray for our dear sister, and you our dear brother. We are your family, and if there is anything we can do for you or your family please let us know.

    Abdullah Mikail, Nia, and Anissa MacKay

  122. ASA Mike

    Thank you for updating us all on Our sisters condition. We are all praying for her. In the meanwhile if there is anything we can do other then prayers do let us know

    Thank you

  123. Dear Brother Mike
    This is the time when ALLAH examines our Iman. If we are passed in faith during crucial hours of life... ALLAH will bless us with lots of Inam and Shower of Neamats on us. May Allah bless you and give you strength to bear this moments of life. Amin
    Zuber Gopalani

  124. Dear Mike,

    My thoughts are with you too. I know that your passion for communal
    peace and understanding will provide you the strength to bear your imminent loss and to carry on with your important work.

    Raju Rajagopal

  125. Dear Mike,

    May you get the strength to come out of this tumultuous phase and
    move forward with your life and work. You are very courageous indeed.


  126. May the joy you have known being with her, be always be with you.

    Husband and wife are one, walking together on the path of dharma.
    When one departs, other other must carry-on on their joint behalf.

    chuni-chuni phulwa, lagaai badi raas,ud gaye phulwa, rah gaii baas||

    When the flowers are gone, the scent lingers on.

    Convey to her our regards, from those who have admired your joint


  127. Dear Mike

    Just to tell you that I am with you.


  128. That is one of the most touching statements I have ever read! It is truly beautiful!

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your wife is going to a wonderful place.

    Bob Dawson

  129. Mike - I've been thinking about you and your wife very day and sending you many prayers for her comfort and healing.
    I was told that she is really not doing very well and so I realize this is an extremely difficult for you and your family.
    Please call on me for anything at all. I'm very close to your home - just down Marsh Lane to where Spring Valley intersects - close to the Tom Thumb. I'd be very pleased to run errands or bring you whatever you might need.
    I'll be praying for you and your dear wife.
    With much affection,
    Rita Clarke

  130. Salam to you and Najma Aunty. I pray to Allah that a miracle happens and she recovers very soon. Thank you so much for the update. Once again, your family will be in our prayers.

    Happy Mother's Day to Najma Aunty.


    May Allah ease all your difficulties. Ameen.

  131. Mike,
    We join in your prayers for Najma's comfort and anticipation of glorious eternal healing.
    Your beautiful expressions of your faith are a blessing to all who see it,
    God's sustaining love be with you and your loved ones,
    Bill & Norma Matthews

  132. Greetings, Mike,
    Thanks for incuding me among those to whom you sent the email message.

    Although I have had little time to know you and Najma (you and I met at the awards dinner), you and she are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Myfirst wife of 52 years (Joyce) died of cancer at home with her friends and family with her.
    She was under care of a hospice nurse with me handling medication. I am happy that you and Najma can be at home together for her last days.I believe you are both in the "arms" of Allah.

    Dawson W. Tunnell

  133. Dear Mike, You have only met me a few times at interfaith gatherings but you always amazingly seem to have remembered me, which honors me greatly. We shared one such meal at a table filled with persons of several faiths (My husband and I are good friends of Bill and Norma Matthews). I want to thank you for including me among those with whom you have shared very precious and heartfelt thoughts about this most challenging time you and Najma are living through. Please know that my deepest prayers are with you and Najma, to the God I fervently believe we both worship in our differing ways and through our differing channels. It moves me greatly to hear of the devoutness with which you and Najma are continuing to enact your devotion to Allah and I know he hears your prayers and holds you in his loving and protective embrace. May his blessings, and the blessings of the God and Father of us all, be always upon you both, Kathy Johnson

  134. Dear Mike,

    It is so good to see you have found comfort in how peacefully your wife passed. I am sorry to hear she was ill, and please accept my deepest condolences.

    I hope to have a chance to meet you in person one of these days and express these thoughts to you face to face. Your message was very touching, even more so to me and my family right now since my wife’s mother just passed away, and it has been quite hard on her and our four children.


  135. I am deeply saddened to hear about Najma, our love and prayers are with you both at this time. Please let me know if I can do anything to help. My cell # is 972-746-9134, you can reach me at any time.

    May God grant her peace and happiness.


  136. Mike/Najma,

    God will bless Najma and you for all the good things you both do.

    Our prayers are always with you.

    Hari and jyoti

  137. Dear Mike,

    My prayers are with you and Najma. Like all of us, she is in God’s hands now and ever. There are no better hands in which to rest whether now or in eternity.


    Dr. Robert Hunt
    Director of Global Theological Education
    Perkins School of Theology

  138. Dear Mike,

    May the peace that passes all understanding be with you both.
    Najma and you will be in the forefront of my thoughts and prayers today.



    Terry Jones, Associate Pastor
    Highland Park United Methodist Church

  139. Mike, please see prayers from Thomas Lee Johnson for Sister Najma

    Your entire family is in our thoughts and prayers.

    Imran Aftab

  140. We read your beautifully written email. Though we were not aware of Najma's health condition, our prayers are certainly with you. May you have the strength now and throughout as time progresses.

    We always appreciate good work that both of you do for the community. With admiration and Michchhami Dukkadam,

    Jadavji & Kusum Kenia

  141. Dear Mike,

    I can relate to your young wife. I lost my husband ten years ago when he was fifty but he went so quickly that none of us who loved him could do anything. Now my mother is going slowly. Yesterday, I held her hand for two hours and thought she would go but, for some reason, God chose to let her have ‘kickback’ and, so, she is here.

    I have my favorite Sura, which I only know in English, it is the Nur Sura, and the part I have loved since I was nineteen is:

    [24:35] GOD is the light of the heavens and the earth. The allegory of His light is that of a concave mirror behind a lamp that is placed inside a glass container. The glass container is like a bright, pearl-like star. The fuel thereof is supplied from a blessed oil-producing tree, that is neither eastern, nor western. Its oil is almost self-radiating; needs no fire to ignite it. Light upon light. GOD guides to His light whoever wills (to be guided). GOD thus cites the parables for the people. GOD is fully aware of all things.
    [24:36] (God's guidance is found) in houses exalted by GOD, for His name is commemorated therein. Glorifying Him therein, day and night -
    May the Merciful be with you and Najma.

    Your sister,


  142. We will continue to pray for our sister's recovery, and for Allah (swt) to bestow his rahma and sabr on you and your family in this hour of need. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help you. JAK. ASA.


  143. Salam
    Dear Mke,
    What a Qasida for Najma! Shi has been what Queen Noorjahan was for Moghal King- Jehangir It is for such ladies, that r,Iqbal said::


    Indeed,she brought a breath of fresh air in your dreary life as a bachelor,Editor of Asian News, She had as many facets as diamond-a community leader, inspiring speaker, and As a distinguished daughter of very pious,popular and perfect role model father-Maulana Fazlur Rahman alias Kausar Niazi-she was her self a role model for the young generation.

    Do not despair. On reading your Email,I prayed at Zuhr for her in Saja as prayers are accepted in Obligatory prayers,especially Sajda.Besides,I phoned Amir A. Khan,former aide of Congressman Doggert form Austin- to pray for her.He had visited her in the hospital.He is Nqshbandii Shaikh from Trinidad,South America,apart from being a graduate in law from Harvard..

    As I emailed you before,recite:

    Ya Badiul Ajaib Bil Khair Ya Badie Arhimha ila Youm iddin

    after two Rakats any time -counting 1000 times.

    Also Surat Muzammil is very much recommended.
    Wish her a speedy recovery,

    Ambassador Syed A .Ahsani Tijani- a humble follower of the recent Sufi Silsila (Order)-Tijannia from Morocco,North Africa

  144. Please excuse me for not writing you sooner; I had not been aware of what your wife Najma and you have been so bravely confronting. I greatly admire the way both of you dealing with the situation and thank you for your very moving message. All of us can learn from it. My thoughts and very best wishes are with you both. Sincerely,

    Ed Thomas.

  145. Mike,

    Our prayers are with Najma and your family. May you all have the strength to deal with this situation.

    Kay (Kumkum) Jain

  146. God give you all the strength and courage to be brave with her.

    I admire your courage and strength to even write to us. Be with her. I am so happy that you are reciting all the great works of God. God give her the strength to accept the reality and embrace it with full awareness. May god give her all the comforts in the last minutes and courage to you my friend?

    Please convey Michami Dukkadam to her on all our behalf. I am ending this e-mail with prayers for her and for you. Spend all the time giving her strength and reciting God’s words and works.

    May God bless you and comfort you all,

    Praying for you,

    Kirit and Pramila Daftary

  147. Our sincerest wishes and thoughts ..may Najama's soul find peace as the journey continues higher level with all the good deeds and volunteering and caring she has done for the community

    we wish you all the spiritual strength and peace with your self

    Pradeep and Bina Shah

  148. We are very sorry to hear about Najma's delicate health. We too pray for her recovery.

    With Allah's good grace may you and the family keep mental strength and peace during this very difficult and trying times.

    Our 'Michhami Dukkadam' to Najma, you and the family.

    With kind regards,
    Nalini & Jay

  149. Jai Jinendra!

    This is a very heartfelt message we received from you. We were not aware of Najma’s condition and sorry for that.

    We will keep Najma in our prayer and thoughts and wish her a peaceful time as she rides out of this tumultuous time.

    Please let us know if anything Shweta and I could for Ghouse family. Also, please let us know the day and time for the prayer meeting.

    With best regards,
    Gautam and Shweta Daftary

  150. Many of you know Mike and Najma Ghouse who were actively involved in the Peace Conference. Please see Mike's note about Najma and keep them both in your prayers.

    Margaret Culgan

  151. I just received your email a couple of days ago. I would like to extend our prayers and best wishes to you, Najma, and your family during this trying time.

    May Allah be with you.



  152. This morning talking to Dr. Prasad I heard the sad news about your wife. May god give peace to her .
    I donot he words to console you but I know the feelings as I lost my only love years ago and still
    even after almost 4 decades I miss her. Please accept my condolences .

  153. When we turn things over to Allah, knowing that everything that was humanly possible has been done, we are able to find inner peace and tranquility. Our best prayers and wishes remain with both of you and your families. Pervaiz and Raufia.

  154. Hi mike Thamma,
    My prayers aare with you and Najma
    You are wiser than myself .
    All I can say is God bless you and keep you courageous
    your Akka

  155. Hi Mike and najma;
    we all are here to pray for Najma and all her loved ones. we all come with Allah/Gods blessing to this Earth and we all belong to him and ready to go back when he calls for us. Najma has always been very courageous and inspirational woman for all her friends. we all love her.
    I will come visit soon

  156. I lost my words. Let God give you and Najma peace and enough strength to face tough times.

    If you look around you will always find me by your side my friend.


  157. Assalamu Alaykom brother Mike,

    Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.
    I've just known about Najma and I am so sorry about your loss...I didn't know about her sickness and I am glad that she had the departure, even though early, that we all wish as you said. I've never met her but I am certain that she was a great wife, mother and community dedicated lady. To you and all the family members, who will feel her absence the most, I would like to present in my name and in my wife's name our very deep and sincere condolences.
    Please let me know when you're going to schedule the two hours evening of memories of Najma so that we can share it with you.

    "Subhan Allah Wa Inna Lillah Wa Inna Elayhi Rajeoon"

    Your Brother and sister Mabrouk and Huda Boudaga.

  158. salaams
    Thanks so much for sharing this. May all go well.

  159. May God be with you and with your wife, Mike. Our prayers are with you.

  160. You strength and faith is wonderful. Wish you shine there always.

    Akbar Hussain

  161. Dear Ghouse Sb. May you and Najma be the BLESSED ones, aameen.

    Though I only know you through the Forum Writings; yet your message of today has surely touched the cords of my heart somewhere deep down! How I wish and hope that ALLAH should grant all of to share and care for our respective "spouses", in the same spirit and manner as you have narrated here!!!

    I am so moved, intensely, by your feelings that I very much want to share with you and all my dear friends of our Forum, about the same desperate and heart-rending feelings of LOVE shared by the famous 19th Century poet Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861) wife of none other than Robert Browning. Well, may be that some members would not be aware of the fact that Elizabeth was indisposed to the extent of spending quite some time on a wheel-chair. And Robert very lovingly used to carry her in his arms.

    Now I would like to share one of Elizabeth's LOVE POEMS with you...though as a
    second thought I feel that it might be long for some persons. But if I abridge or
    concise it; then it would lose its "essence" altogether!!!

    How do I love thee?
    Let me count the ways.
    I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
    My soul can reach,
    When feeling out of sight
    For the ends of ideal grace.
    I love thee to the level of everyday's
    Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
    I love thee freely, as men strive for rights.
    I love thee purely; as they turn from praise
    I love thee with the passion put to use
    In my old griefs, and with my childhood faith.
    I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
    With my lost saints.
    I love thee with the breath, smiles, tears,
    Of all my life; and if God choose,
    I shall but love thee, better after death!

    Well, Ghouse Sb. this suffices it best of wishes and regards to you and
    your NAJMA.

    Farzana Khan.

  162. Mike, I am really so sorry to hear about Sister Najma. We all pray for her health recovery
    and pray for you and your other members of the family. Thanks for sharing this news with all the friends.
    With best wishes and prayers.
    Barkat Ali & family.

  163. Mike take whatever time you need to comfort najma, our prayers are with you all I want to come monday to see her please give me your address so I can try to come in the morning and leave in the evening. just incase I dont make it please tell her just in few days that I had know her I was very happy and proud of the volunteer work that you and najma did. I was especially proud of the medical clinic she helped open up at the masjid. I had prayed to allah to help me help people who are unfortunate like najma did. I heard of a good saying " leave earth a better place than what you have found it" with all her work and effort I know she has left this earth a better place.
    I hope allah accepts our prayers.


  164. ASAK,

    It is very painful to read what you are going thru. It is also true that one finds it almost impossible to find true words of consolation to extend,except duaa and hope.May Allah help her,and you, at this time of testing.

    Faith has two branches, one is to be thankful (shukr) to Allah and the other is to be patient (sabr).

    The Qur’an tells us that

    [Allah is with those who are patient and steadfast (as-sabirin).] (Al-Baqarah 2:153)

    [Allah is with those who are righteous (al-muttaqin)] (Al-Baqarah 2:194)

    [Allah is with those who do the acts of kindness (al-muhsinin)] (Al-`Ankabut 29:69)

    We sincerely make duaas and hope for a positive outcome. The entire "goodindians" family feels your pain and sufferings. May Allah give you strength and patience. Regards.



  165. Dear Mike,
    Warmest greetings from New York and thank you for sharing such an intimate and moving experience with your beloved Najma.

    It is inspiring that, although your heart must be breaking at the thought of being separated from the one you love, you and she are facing it with such courage and serenity.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time and I am sure Najma will find peace and joy when she passes on.

    With sincere good wishes.

    Jack Corley

  166. Assalamu-Alaikum, Mike,

    My heart and prayers goes out for you and Sr. Najma. May Allah 'swt' give you the patience and fortitude to make it easy on both of you.

    Please let me know if I can be of any help to you all.


  167. Dear Mike,

    Bernie called me after he visited you, as I'd asked him to keep me informed because I am very concerned about Najma and you. I understand how bad this is -- it was the same with my sister, and I wish I could help. I was glad to learn from Bernie that you have lots of family close by. That is a blessing.

    You are a very good man, Mike, and you've done a great deal for this community. Many of us who know you are thinking of you and Najma and praying for you both.

    I wanted to call you yesterday but didn't because I know you have your hands full and your house full. I.'m writing this message instead . You'll see it when you can,

    There is a God to whom we both pray -- you in your Muslim way and Bernie and Denise and I in our Jewish way. This one God loves us all as He does all his children of every faith. Najma will be in a better place, and just as it was with my sister, you will miss her terribly, but you will be thankful to know that at last she is out of pain.


  168. Dear Mike,
    Assalamu Alaykum.

    I’m sorry to hear of the condition of your wife. May Allah give her peace and mercy and give you strength and patience.

    Louay Safi

  169. Our Prayers are with you and your family.

    Aashique Charaniya
    Luanda , Angola

  170. My prayers are with you and madam Nazma..Michami Dukadam...


  171. Dear Br Mike Ghouse,
    Assalam Alaikum. It is very difficult for us to read this e-mail of yours about the condition of your wife Najma. But we all pray for your wife, you and your family. We seek Allah's Rahmat on all of you. May Allah help you all remove your difficulties and afflictions. Please do consider us all as part of your extended family who are praying for your family and wishing you well.

    With best wishes, regards and prayers.

    Kaleem Kawaja

  172. Dear Mike,
    Thank you for sharing yourself at this stage of your life with your beloved wife. Your faith and that of your wife’s is a reminder that we are united in our common quest for unity with the Divine. I shall pray Christian prayers for you and your family asking for strength and grace to fill your lives.
    Isabel Docampo

  173. The goodness in you and in your wife is the best medicine.You both have the goodness because of your deep faith in Allah and Prophet Mohammed.So nothing will go wrong.May Allah's grace be showered on you and your wife."Michami Dukadam."

  174. May God grsnt your wishes and may you get a lot more time to enjoy the company of your beloved wife.


  175. It's a touching write...You are a blessed couple . god will be ever on your side..Glad to see that Bhabhi ji is safe now...I will pray for her speedy recovery and hope she will be fine soon....Kindly convey my regards to her...La Ila ha Illal Lahu Muhammadur Rasool ulla.......yash

  176. Dear Mr. Ghouse,

    I am a bit sorry for having written you my last mail a little less courteously than is necessary. Sometimes, we just fail to see the other side of the fence. I can now visualize the turmoil you may be going through and wonder how you are still managing to communicate. My heart goes out to you in sympathy. I know very little of your personal life but have seen much of your work and that keeps me attached. I don’t know what I can do for you but I am sending you something for the solace of your soul. This is a small poem touching upon the sensitive subject of death. May Allah help you and your wife, here and in the hereafter! If anything happens, be sure I am mourning with you. But I wish and pray that your wife gets back to her full health, Insha Allah. Please do not take the trouble of replying to this mail now. I will understand.

    Best wishes,
    Yours sincerely

    Manzurul Haque,
    Patna –801505. (India)


    When death hits life,
    In some remote corner,
    Such as the felling of a distant cousin,
    You are in a position to reflect.
    You are privileged,
    To be out of the ambit of mourning,
    But are mindful,
    Of the ferocity of death!
    For once – you get to grapple,
    With the real question!
    But the more you come to strive,
    The more you tend to sink,
    Into a numbing feeling,
    That nothing you could do,
    Except to write a poem
    Before yourself, you slip into a wink!

  177. I continue to pray for strength for you and your wife.


    Roy Harrell

  178. Salam Walekum Mike,

    Our deepest blessings, prayers, and positive vibes for you and your family. May Allah always keep you all in peace.

    Javeed, Suraiya, Shama, and Sofiya Hyder

  179. Salaam, Mike,

    Thank you for sending me this update of Najma and her condition. My prayers are for her ease and peace. What a blessing that the two of you can have this time at home. I pray it exceeds all of the doctors' expectations and she has a full recovery. I pray she is not in pain and that Allah supports you both with His strength.

    Peace and blessings,

  180. Dear Mike,

    I got your email today and feel the pain you are going through.
    Najma is such a lovely person who has always cared for everyone around.
    She had always worked for the betternent of our community.
    God Almighty put us under severe tests in order to upgrade our ranks in the world
    and hereafter...

    I pray to God that Najma recovers soon and becomes healthy..
    I wish that she feels better and get involved with community activities as she always did.

    Shahina and

  181. Dear Mike,

    You and Najma-ji have always been a big inspiration for the DFW community. Shubha and I are very saddened to hear about Najma-ji, you are always in our prayers. May god give you the strength in this difficult time.

    -Vatsa and Shubha

  182. Dearest Mike:

    Najma is an extraordinary person, a radiant presence I was honored to meet in Dallas.

    I am sending you both prayers for healing, and have asked my community to join me in those prayers.

    Please be sure to take care of yourself also. You are both precious in the heart of G-D and in the hearts of so many who love and respect you both.


  183. Bismillah

    Assalaam Alaikum,

    Can you please play this near Najma Apa so she can hear it. It has some very good duas. She is constantly in my thoughts.

    Also, to read at:

    Amina Rab

  184. May God keep her in peace and comfort here and paradise for her, if and when He decides.
    with a lot of prayers.
    May God grant you (Mike) patience.
    S. Akhtar A. Shah, M.D.

  185. Mike Ghouse Ji
    It break my heart after seeing your e-mail, was out of country. Dear Loving Najama Ji is strong women. Please keep faith in GOD, and do not give up.
    Manju Shrivastava

  186. Najma, you and your family are in our prayers.

    Mohamed Mohamed

  187. Mike,

    Asalaam-alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu. Please
    know that Dr. Asif Syed & family are with you at this moment of need, and we pray that Allah’s rahmat and blessings be constantly at Najma’s side. May God bless
    you all and give you strength.

    Asif Bhai & Family

  188. Dear Mike,

    My husband, Larry, and I send deepest condolences on Najma's passing. Thank you for remembering all your many friends at this painful time and sharing what has happened. She was/is a beautiful person who lives now in the eternal world, where we will all go in our own time. You do her great honor by your efforts to build bridges among all God's children. God bless you always.

    Laura Hornbeck

  189. Dear Mr. Ghouse

    MQM Dallas on behalf of its office bearers and workers offers deepest condolences to you and your family on sad death of Najma Appa. She had always been a huge support for us and for our Indo Pak Solidarity Mushaira Series. We all will miss our patron, Najma Appa. May Allah rest her soul in peace and provide her highest place in Jannat.

    MQM Dallas

  190. Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. I have always been impressed by your work and the work of your wife. We will all miss her in Carrollton.

    Bob McCranie & Warren Sippel,Jr.

  191. Dear Mike

    I liked Najma and will miss seeing her with you, whether at Kananda gatherings or
    elsewhere. The last time I saw her and spoke to her and held her hands, she was
    hopeful though she knew the challenges she was facing. She was too young to leave
    us. I hope that the future will see better treatment for these dreaded diseases
    so that young people can live a fuller life.

    The days ahead will be difficult for you and your family. I can only wish you the
    strength to face them. Be assured we will all remember Najma fondly. Ramji

  192. Dear Mike,
    I had met you and Najma ji in early 1999. Though, it was a short interaction I respected your outlook. Over the years, I've followed your work as a part of your email and felt compelled to express my thoughts and prayers during the time of your loss. I hope you acquire the courage and strength from your memories and work.


  193. Dear Mike,

    May God give Najma a place in seven

    May God give you and the family courage to endure this loss.

    Please let me know if I could do any thing for you and your family in this difficult time.


  194. Dear Brother
    As salaam alaikum

    I would just like to share this Hadith

    Ar-Riqaq: Patience on loss of dear friend (or relative)

    Volume 008 :: Book 076 (To Make The Heart Tender (Ar-Riqaq)) :: Hadith Number 432.

    Narrated By Abu Huraira :

    Allah's Apostle said, "Allah says, 'I have nothing to give but Paradise as a reward to my believer slave, who, if I cause his dear friend (or relative) to die, remains patient (and hopes for Allah's Reward)."

    Ar-Riqaq: 3 things that follow the dead

    Volume 008 :: Book 076 (To Make The Heart Tender (Ar-Riqaq)) :: Hadith 521

    Narrated By Anas bin Malik:

    Allah's Apostle said, "When carried to his grave, a dead person is followed by three, two of which return (after his burial) and one remains with him: his relative, his property, and his deeds follow him; relatives and his property go back while his deeds remain with him."

    Inna Lillahi wa Inna ilaihi Raajiuun.

    May Allah fogive her sins and grant her Jannah. Ameen.

    Zaffer Khan

  195. 'chup gaya chaand, raat baaqi hai,
    umar katt gaee, hayaat baaqi hai ...'

    my hubby passed on 20 years ago (in May) ...peace to all.

  196. Every one at SKF academy(Muslim community center)praying for you.